It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People by Ramani Durvasula is a transformative guide to protecting and healing yourself from the narcissism you can’t see. Dr. Durvasula reveals that dealing with a narcissist is not easy, and their manipulation and invalidation can wreak havoc on your well-being. In this book, she unpacks the misunderstood personality of narcissists, helping you identify the telltale signs and protect yourself from their toxic influence¹.

You’ll learn to become gaslight resistant, break trauma bonds, create boundaries, practice discernment, and recover your sense of self after years of invalidation. Healing and thriving after a narcissistic relationship is challenging but possible. The first step is to stop trying to change the narcissistic person, stop blaming yourself, and start fostering your autonomy and self-worth outside of that relationship¹.